highly sensitive child

Counting to Three: A Positive Parenting Version

Many kids have an inherent panic response when Mom or Dad starts counting, “1…2…3…”—the three most fearsome numbers of childhood. Although the consequences differ from household to household, counting is often code for imminent trouble. Peaceful, positive parenting can change that. Rather than counting to three as a threat (suggesting punishment that’s rarely effective anyway), …

Counting to Three: A Positive Parenting Version Read More »

Executive Function

Emotional Intelligence: Conflict Resolution for Kids

Most kids have inherently good negotiation skills. Pull out a chocolate bar and tell kids to divide it up for themselves, and you’ll find quick proof of that. When it comes to conflict resolution and self-regulation, however, many adults wonder whether children possess the emotional intelligence and executive functioning skills to navigate that territory. As …

Emotional Intelligence: Conflict Resolution for Kids Read More »

Empathic and Highly Sensitive Person

Highly Sensitive Person Parenting Strategies

The empathic Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) may be relatively new as a namesake, but certainly not as a concept. Some of us are just wired a bit differently than most others, be it from nature or nurture (although in this case, science argues for both). And with nature to thank—not to blame, but to thank—those of …

Highly Sensitive Person Parenting Strategies Read More »

Sharing on their own terms works

Sharing and Taking Turns: Supporting Your Kids

In the dance class I’ve written about before and that I help teach, the kids sometimes use colorful scarves as props during freestyle dancing. It’s really fun to watch them swirl and twirl, unless you’re watching littlest Julianne*, where you wonder how long it’ll take her to accidentally wrap up her feet and wipe out. The less …

Sharing and Taking Turns: Supporting Your Kids Read More »

Holiday Stress and Joy

Family and Holidays: 6 Ways to Find Joy

Trees and lights. Snow and sledding. Family and holidays. For many of us, these are naturally joyful pairs (trees and lights are especially exciting if you’re a toddler or a cat). Of course there’s the other side, too. Some people hold their breath and just hope for the best, especially if they’re spending the holidays with …

Family and Holidays: 6 Ways to Find Joy Read More »

Best Books for Kids to Build Self-Esteem and Confidence

It’s tough being a kid these days. Not that it was easy when we were little–the playground could be a pretty rough place for everyone, and definitely so for a gentle soul like mine. For better or worse, social media didn’t exist yet; therefore, we couldn’t confirm or deny our social status. Compared to the …

Best Books for Kids to Build Self-Esteem and Confidence Read More »

Understanding Children’s Behavior: One Simple Idea

Every week, I help teach a dance class. And every week for the past three months, six-year-old Lexi (not her real name) has had to be first in line when the children await their dance props (scarves and whatnot). When it’s time to line up, she’ll push other kids out of the way to get the prime spot. …

Understanding Children’s Behavior: One Simple Idea Read More »

The Gift of an Uncomfortable Moment: Building Childhood Resilience

When my daughter was three years old, for some reason that’s unbeknownst to me, she decided that what people do with Halloween candy is…donate it. Who was I to argue with her thoughtful idea? So, for the past two years, we’ve gathered up her loot and handed it off to a grateful recipient. I somehow …

The Gift of an Uncomfortable Moment: Building Childhood Resilience Read More »

Preparing for the Inevitable: The Importance of Trusting Play

“Mommy, let’s pretend this isn’t a train tunnel.” “Okay, what is it?” “It’s a tomb.” Well, hello, conversation stopper. She paused for effect, which is a good thing, because I certainly didn’t expect that. After a moment to process and very consciously trust that children’s play serves an important purpose for them, I mentally cringed …

Preparing for the Inevitable: The Importance of Trusting Play Read More »

Telling Our Kids What TO Do: Three Ways to Build a Child’s Self-Confidence

At one of the schools I have the pleasure of visiting regularly, this week’s craft table featured what the teacher appropriately called the “paper guillotine,” along with some glue and paper. At one point, an unsuspecting adult walked over and saw the setup. She inquired, only half-jokingly, “Oh, is this the table where you slice …

Telling Our Kids What TO Do: Three Ways to Build a Child’s Self-Confidence Read More »