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Emotional Intelligence: Conflict Resolution for Kids

Most kids have inherently good negotiation skills. Pull out a chocolate bar and tell kids to divide it up for themselves, and you’ll find quick proof of that. When it comes to conflict resolution and self-regulation, however, many adults wonder whether children possess the emotional intelligence and executive functioning skills to navigate that territory. As …

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Sharing on their own terms works

Sharing and Taking Turns: Supporting Your Kids

In the dance class I’ve written about before and that I help teach, the kids sometimes use colorful scarves as props during freestyle dancing. It’s really fun to watch them swirl and twirl, unless you’re watching littlest Julianne*, where you wonder how long it’ll take her to accidentally wrap up her feet and wipe out. The less …

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Telling Our Kids What TO Do: Three Ways to Build a Child’s Self-Confidence

At one of the schools I have the pleasure of visiting regularly, this week’s craft table featured what the teacher appropriately called the “paper guillotine,” along with some glue and paper. At one point, an unsuspecting adult walked over and saw the setup. She inquired, only half-jokingly, “Oh, is this the table where you slice …

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Finding the Patience for Positive Parenting, Part Two: Tricky Moments

We were every cliché: she spilled her milk all over the table and was using her fingers to spread it into a big and messy design; I was already waaaay late making dinner. I was feeling anxious and frustrated, and struggling to be mindful of the positive parenting ideas from part one of this article. (Yep, I’m …

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Finding the Patience for Positive Parenting, Part One: The Big Picture

We’ve all had that class—the one we were required to take to fill some requirement, but had absolutely no interest in taking. For me, it was a summer class during grad school. It was called “Miscommunication,” and I agreed–it must’ve been some incredible misunderstanding that I wasn’t at the beach. However, as much as it …

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The Positive No: What “No” Looks Like in Positive Parenting

Ice cream for breakfast; impromptu gifts; cookies for lunch; no responsibilities ever; cake for dinner…oops…hold on…that’s my wish list, and I’m supposed to be writing about kids. A lot of people think positive parenting means giving children everything they ask for (i.e., permissive parenting). If I had a nickel for every time I’ve heard that, I’d be able …

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