introvert

Counting to Three: A Positive Parenting Version

Many kids have an inherent panic response when Mom or Dad starts counting, “1…2…3…”—the three most fearsome numbers of childhood. Although the consequences differ from household to household, counting is often code for imminent trouble. Peaceful, positive parenting can change that. Rather than counting to three as a threat (suggesting punishment that’s rarely effective anyway), …

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Executive Function

Emotional Intelligence: Conflict Resolution for Kids

Most kids have inherently good negotiation skills. Pull out a chocolate bar and tell kids to divide it up for themselves, and you’ll find quick proof of that. When it comes to conflict resolution and self-regulation, however, many adults wonder whether children possess the emotional intelligence and executive functioning skills to navigate that territory. As …

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Empathic and Highly Sensitive Person

Highly Sensitive Person Parenting Strategies

The empathic Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) may be relatively new as a namesake, but certainly not as a concept. Some of us are just wired a bit differently than most others, be it from nature or nurture (although in this case, science argues for both). And with nature to thank—not to blame, but to thank—those of …

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Holiday Stress and Joy

Family and Holidays: 6 Ways to Find Joy

Trees and lights. Snow and sledding. Family and holidays. For many of us, these are naturally joyful pairs (trees and lights are especially exciting if you’re a toddler or a cat). Of course there’s the other side, too. Some people hold their breath and just hope for the best, especially if they’re spending the holidays with …

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Best Books for Kids to Build Self-Esteem and Confidence

It’s tough being a kid these days. Not that it was easy when we were little–the playground could be a pretty rough place for everyone, and definitely so for a gentle soul like mine. For better or worse, social media didn’t exist yet; therefore, we couldn’t confirm or deny our social status. Compared to the …

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Childhood Fears: How to Help Conquer Them

Childhood fears are as real to them, as our adult ones are to us. Case in point, when my daughter was younger and before I better understood highly sensitive children (afflinks), we drove past Seattle’s Fremont Troll and it scared the heck out of her. She dubbed it the second scariest thing in the universe, coming in …

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Introverted Children: Three Ways to Connect

When my daughter was two, I had to schedule at least two hours when we’d go to the grocery store because, being the new talker that she was then, she insisted that we stop and talk to every single person we passed in every single aisle. I’d go in for one tomato and leave with 25 new …

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Introverted Child

Supporting the Introverted Child

I was always a highly introverted child; an observer. It showed. For instance, when I was in high school, I learned that for my dance group’s upcoming graduation dinner, the other dancers selected me to receive the spoof award for being the “Most Reserved.” Knowing how much I despised being called by my “label” when …

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You Are Here: How to Diffuse Big Feelings

Anyone with someone small in the house knows how BIG the feelings can be. As parents, we commit all sorts of unconscionable crimes: we deliver a pancake in the wrong shape; put the ketchup on the pasta instead of next to it (and yes, we’ve agreed to ketchup on pasta); we’ve put the wrong sock on first.The …

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