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Preparing for the Inevitable: The Importance of Trusting Play

“Mommy, let’s pretend this isn’t a train tunnel.” “Okay, what is it?” “It’s a tomb.” Well, hello, conversation stopper. She paused for effect, which is a good thing, because I certainly didn’t expect that. After a moment to process and very consciously trust that children’s play serves an important purpose for them, I mentally cringed …

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Conquering Fears

When my daughter was younger and before I better understood highly sensitive children (afflinks), we drove past Seattle’s Fremont Troll and it scared the heck out of her. She dubbed it the second scariest thing in the universe, coming in on her list only behind the scary mice from the Nutcracker ballet. Now, this was a tricky …

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The Doctor, the Dentist, the Anxiety, Oh My! Helping Your Child Find Peace in Predictably Scary Situations

From the backseat of the car, my daughter asked me to tell her a story. Since we were on the way to her annual well child exam, I wondered if she was seeking a virtual role play in which the heroine of my story would be on her way to the doctor, too. So, sure …

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Finding the Patience for Positive Parenting, Part One: The Big Picture

We’ve all had that class—the one we were required to take to fill some requirement, but had absolutely no interest in taking. For me, it was a summer class during grad school. It was called “Miscommunication,” and I agreed–it must’ve been some incredible misunderstanding that I wasn’t at the beach. However, as much as it …

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Counting to Three (But Not Like You’re Thinking)

Many kids have an inherent panic response when Mom or Dad starts counting, “1…2…3…”–the three most fearsome numbers of childhood. Although the consequences differ from household to household, counting is often code for imminent trouble. Peaceful parenting can change that. Numbers can be your child’s friend, once again (and yours, too). Here’s how. When you’re upset with …

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The Parental Messer-Upper: How to Correct and Reconnect

Today, my biggest “success” may have been when I spilled our 350-degree-straight-from-the-oven dinner all over the floor, but managed to avoid covering my nearby child in it. You know that joke people sometimes make about “Well, did everybody survive the day? That’s all that matters…”–well, today, I feel fortunate to answer that one affirmatively. Not. …

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